The Force is With Her, Always

Misc–karmic mistakes?, Movies & Television & Theatre

When I heard that Carrie Fisher had a heart attack on a flight, I thought, “Oh, no–not her, too. Please, no.”

I felt really hopeless about it, though. Of course 2017 would take her away from us.

Now, a few days later, I remind myself that she’ll never be really gone–never be forgotten.

Like every geeky girl, I desperately wanted to be Princess Leia. I had Star Wars memorized. My favorite shirt was an iron-on with the Princess.

Once, I was wearing it when I was sick.

I threw up and then sobbed so uncontrollably that my mother thought I must have cracked a rib. Eventually, I was able to settle down enough to tell her that the crying was because my Princess Leia shirt was ruined. My mother was able to reassure me that the vomit would wash out.

When I outgrew the shirt, I didn’t want to let it go. One day, I decided to turn it into a pillow. Now, I don’t really know how to sew, but I knew I could stumble my way through sewing up the ends. I didn’t know what went into pillows, so I filled it with cotton balls.

As soon as I did so, I realized that must not be what’s in pillows, but the project was almost done!

That pillow has survived a lot of trauma and a lot of moves, including one across the country. It currently lives with the R2D2 in my room.

As I grew up, I began to see Carrie Fisher in new ways–as a writer, a powerful actress, a survivor, and an advocate for mental health.

(Those of us who’d read so much about her relationship with her mother were less surprised by her mother following her into death–it was completely in character.)

I think the most powerful way in which I connected with Fisher, though, was in the use of comedy as a coping mechanism. I’ve often joked that my family crest should have a Byron quote: And if I laugh at any mortal thing, tis that I may not weep.

But I could just as easily use my favorite thing she ever said: If my life wasn’t funny, it would just be true.

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  • Jennifer Jan 8, 2019 Link

    Hi–I started reading your blog today and have been entertained out the wazoo! I seriously do not know how you can stand to read all of those godawful messages from all these dudes, though, I think I’d just run screaming from the Internet. It’s like reading student e-mails except they want to stick their dicks in you….and they live around here too? Eeeeeek.

    Anyway, I just wanted to say that I feel the same way about Carrie Fisher/Princess Leia and therefore I figured you might appreciate this:

    https://fullmoon.typepad.com/photos/gardenofchaos/20181010_123835.html
    https://fullmoon.typepad.com/crafts/2017/10/happy-halloween.html

    Thanks for the reading!

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