There are generally four kinds of non-progressives who see my profile, which clearly states that the man I want “will share my basic values, so he will be liberal/progressive (conservatives, libertarians, and anarchists need not apply).”
First, there are the men who can read and leave me alone. They may be thankful I warned them; they may hate me for being a “libtard.” I have no idea, and for that, I’m grateful.
Second, there are the men who message me to tell me I’m being close-minded. They think I’m attractive, so they think I should put politics aside to let them enjoy me.
They say things like this:
The problem with liberals is they believe that we conservatives are all alike.
I point out this thing called irony.
Opposites attract.
I say, No one who would vote against equality, affordable education, healthcare, or reproductive rights will be able to share my bed.
I don’t care about what gay people do or what you do with your body.
I then have to explain that I’m looking for someone who does care about what gay people are allowed to do and who does care what I can do with my body, instead of voting against us.
This is where guy type 2 usually gives up.
Then, there is the third type, who refuses to go down without an insult.
Last week, I thought a guy was type 2, but he just kept making those ridiculous claims: liberals think all conservatives are alike, liberals want to ban guns, liberals don’t think people should have to work for anything.
Then why did he want to date me, I asked.
Oh I don’t think we could have a relationship. But you’re cute and I thought we could have some fun.
I reminded him that I was looking for long-term.
Then he said I was just looking for a weak man to boss around, that I was afraid of a real man.
(He had already said he pictured all liberal men as having manbuns and being unable to change a flat tire.)
I told him real men weren’t badgering, whiny, mansplainers and blocked him.
And then there’s the fourth type, who thinks that he’s the exception to my rule (he thinks he’s a “centrist”).
Recent example:
Him: Hi there, so I did read your profile as requested.
I’m fairly sure at least politically We are gonna be like minded. [story about some Fox news watching woman who came on to him. I shared a story in kind.]
I’ve always been pretty open minded politically, socially very liberal and more middle of the road fiscally but I just cannot figure out why anyone would support this guy. Politics aside he’s just a really horrible person. He’s a textbook bully. Ugh
Resist resist resist. Lol
Me: I used to date socially liberal/fiscal conservative guys, but I can’t do it anymore if they vote Republican. If a guy willing to throw voting rights, gays, reproductive rights, the environment, science, education, etc. under the bus for his wallet, then I can’t be with him.
He never answered me, so I guess he usually votes Republican.
What is it that makes these Republican voters think they get to count as liberals/progressives? Because when they vote to fuck the rest of us over, they’re only being selfish, instead of overtly racist/sexist/homophobic/nationalist?
